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Dr. Jon Miller's letter on the Significance of Poetry

Letter composed by Dr. Jon Miller

-accompanying the gift of "Modern American and British Poetry" by Louis Untermeyer


J--------,

This is much too small a token to repay all the... [personal details omitted by the editor]

The book is for me a special one; it has even been a dangerous one.  Perhaps because of your present course, it will be equally special, equally dangerous for you also.  It is an old book, not old enough to be antiquarian, but old enough to be well used.  I have a number of editions of it in my collection; I acquire them whenever I see them, and I don't see them very often anymore.  I have given one or two to other students whom I though might care.  I even gave on once as a wedding present.  The couple still speaks to me.  you are getting a copy of what for me is the most special edition of all.  The smooth, faded blue cloth and the beveled edges are just as they are on my mother's copy of this same edition.  I wonder if the $3.50, once penciled into the corner of the front free-fly, that I erased, was the original price.  Does it seem a bit high for the depression?  Anyway, no other book, regardless of price, has contributed so much to my own lo e of poetry.

I will tell you the story that I have told to most of the others upon whom I have inflicted other copies.  The telling, too, is this time all the more special because of the connections of our families... [personal details omitted.]

When I was growing up, my family spent several weeks each summer in the home of my grandparents in the small, very small, town of Alden, Iowa.  Small towns are wonderful for small children.  We could go anywhere, do anything.  The few shops along Main Street were much more accessible to us than any of Durham's larger, grander stores.  Your Grandmother will remember that Durham was in those days "the city of exciting stores."  The river running through Alden was all that a river could be, complete with falls; Alden was, the sign said, " the best town by a dam site."  There were open spaces, and there were lots of other children at loose ends ready to catch fireflies or to play auntie (anti or ante)-over or hide and seek.  Iowa itself is glorious in summer -- the jet-black earth producing a deep, lush green everywhere and all set  beneath an endless blue sky.  It was a sensuous place.  However, by the time that I was finishing high school, things had changed a bit.  The black, green, and blue were as dazzling as before; but the shops now seemed very small and much emptier; and one-time playmates had summer jobs and were little interested in "geekier," "nerdier" city folk.  I retreated into my grandparent's house - a large, old house built in 1870 by a retired farmer come to town.  It frequently smelled of ginger and clove from my grandmother's cookie baking or of coffee which endlessly brewed.  My uncle, a pianist, practiced eight or so hours everyday, providing every activity a soundtrack.  Family came together joyously and chaotically at mealtimes and in the evenings, but there were long spaces of time to be filled.  I found myself often in my uncle's room upstairs.  It was large and dark and quiet except for the Chopin or Rachmaninov wafting up and in.  There, in the bookcase, I found the 1936 copy of Untermeyer used by my mother in a college course she had taken at Drake.  It was the perfect place, the perfect time, to encounter the green freedom" of Stevens' "Sunday Morning," the most sensuous of all poems.  Later, I was dumbfounded to read a very different, longer version in my own modern poetry class at Davidson.  In Untermeyer, too, I first tried to read Marianne Moore, whom I later met, and many other singers perhaps smaller to whom time has not been so kind, poets such as Wylie, and Teasdale and Lindsay and Robinson and Brooke and Sassoon.  Reading these poems, aimlessly at first and then by choice, not because they were assigned or  because there was to be a test taken or because someone had suggested them, allowed them to do their magic slowly, to become richly musical; and maybe in some small way, it made them mine.  Of course, I still have mother's copy; and just in the last several years, I have included a couple of Peter Viereck poems into a WWII unit for American Studies -- poems I first happened upon decades ago in my own copy of the 1950 edition.

Clearly, this is a book that I love for both its contents and associations; it, certainly, is a book that I have spent many loose and glorious hours with.  I hope that you also find some pleasure in it as well as a few special friends to visit and revisit for as long as I have visited my own friends there.

Thanks once more for all you have done for me this year and for being yourself a good friend. 



Profile - Kathy Benzaquin and the Residential Life Program

 first published in 1983 in the campus and NCSSM community newsletter -- Dialogues.


Kathy Benzaquin is proud of the Residential Life Program at NCSSM and with reason. The system she and her staff have evolved has become a model for those establishing public residential schools in other states. It was only three years ago that Kathy was asked to create a program that would enhance a rigorous academic curriculum by making young high school students feel at home as well as by providing a broad spectrum of co-curricular activities. In response she developed a strong, flexible, accountable program manned by a dedicated staff of Residential Advisors (RAs). 

Kathy attributes success to her policy of selecting staff members whose abilities and interests are tailored to program needs. RAs, whose primary responsibility is to care for and support students, also organize and oversee traditional high school activities — social, recreational, and service. Matching the task to a staff member's talent and interest has made the 24- hour a day, 7-days a week, entry level job attractive to excellent candidates, rewarding for students, and has strengthened every facet of the Residential Life Program.

Support of her staff, particularly professionally, is a priority for Kathy. Her success in training may be measured by job offers RAs receive from other residential schools and by their loyalty to NCSSM. Kathy is philosophical when an offer does lure someone away and they leave with regret — it means she is accomplishing one of her purposes. 

For most students entering NCSSM, Resident Advisors are an unknown quantity, but not for long. The companionship and leadership of a caring adult means a great deal to these young people away from home, and their appreciation is evident. A close association between students and staff is beneficial in many ways, including reducing resentment if discipline is necessary. 

Other Residential Life policies also are designed to make discipline a more positive learning experience. One is to include students in the decision-making process; a second is to establish rules based on a specific consequence for a specific cause. Predictable judgments seem easier to take. 

Another policy that is working well is one requiring students to make a study or social contract with RAs if their grades fall. The staff is especially pleased because some students in good academic standing have voluntarily made contracts. 

For the future Kathy has three wishes — to find more financial support for her staff, to find enough time in the NCSSM schedule so that her staff can make better use of their skills in leading leisure time activities, and to maintain the level of excitement that characterizes the Residential Life Program today.

[Dialogues Volume 3, Number 2, March 1983; Dialogues; NCSSM Digital Collection]

25th Reunion Speeches - Class of '82

Speech by Dr. Jon Miller - Reflections on the Class of 1982

by Jon Miller

October 2007

When Irene asked, and Dot Doyle told, me to say again what I said more than 25 years ago at your senior dinner, I thought the idea was a bit strange' but when Dot emailed me the text of that long ago talk, I realized that much of what I had said then I had said to the wrong people.  I had given an old folks talk to young people.  Well, perhaps, now that you are just a tad older, I have the opportunity to get it right this time, perhaps some of what I had to say then will be more appropriate now -- now that you've more memories and ha e spent more time and richer time with those memories... like even today.

Reunions are always a strange business.  Attending them, I am always afflicted by double vision.  How many times today have you surely seen a 17 year old as you were talking to some one a bit older?  How many times in the palpable presence of so many good friends has our mind wandered off to think about others who weren't here.  How many times in the nowness of today have you almost, not quite, been then.  Reunions are tricky and so are memories.  This thenness and nowness of memory was part of what I tried to talk about then when I said...

Jamie came to see me some weeks ago and said talk to us and I said about what and she said just share some memories and I said fine.  Well Jamie, I can't -- it's too hard a job.  Oh, the memories are there, almost two years worth -- two full years of long days and lots of people.  But everything my mind brings up my heart strikes dumb in my mouth.  My words don't work.  They're not so rich, so varied, or so full as my memories.  I suspect one would have to have lived the last two years here to understand us and this place -- and if you've lived it, the words really aren't necessary.  They aren't sufficient.

So no memories -- no farewells.  For those of us who stay on -- you the first class, will always be here and we shall constantly glimpse you just rounding a corner or drawing away from a window and we shall hear your voices echo in each answer to every question that we ask from now on.

And for those of you who are leaving -- each to go in you own separate way -- you will take with you bits and pieces of the rest of us, small ghosts of this place.

I quit by saying for all of my eminent colleagues - to each one of you -- thanks for sharing yourself with us
                            and
finally
            Ya'll come back right soon
                                                        you hear.

Well you have come back -- if not soon at least now.  And many of those who are not here this time have visited at other times. Some of you have become regular campus fixtures here, helping us to shape policies and programs.  Others of you are not physically here so often but continue to be part of the NCSSM community in a myriad of specal ways.  Whatever role you have chosen to play or been able to play, you were here once and that, in itself, has made you now and forever part of this family.  Your one time presence tugs at those mystic chords of our individual and corporate memories, making you forever present, forever part of each of us, forever part of all of us.

As we get older, individually and institutionally, we come to realize how important memory is.  What we have done, what we have thought and felt, who we have known sometimes comes very close to being who we are; and our memories often enable us to find ourselves and to know ourselves.  Institutionally, our 25th birthday cele ration led NCSSM two years ago to remember and to explore ways of preserving some of what its individual family members remembered.  Those of us on that first faculty were asked to put together a small slice of "what it was like then." We want to share that with you now.



NCSSM Class of 1982 - 25th Reunion Toast

by Lois Thornburg

October, 2007

I was asked to speak tonight as someone who mingled with many of my classmates, as opposed to just hanging with one small group.

I am honored to be thought of as such but not sure I deserve to be -- as there are so many of you I feel as though I don't know well enough.

I am so happy to see you all tonight.  You really are a wonderful bunch of people, and I thank you for being here.  It is a good thing we do in being here, for we share something wonderful and are each other's time keepers -- each other's memory preservers.

I don't know about the rest of you, but my days of "steel-trap mind" are long gone, and I can find no machine for it like I can for muscle and bone loss.

Still, there are some moments I find unforgettable, such as:

Polly singing "Fire and Rain" a cappella in the Assembly Hall at a talent show -- on pitch; 

Keith Promislow, at another assembly, standing up to confront the creation scientists with the evidence of hydrogen's escape velocity;

Eric Roush boldly using expletives in his campaign speech for class office;

Thomas Gilchrist on piano and vocals, bringing down the house with his rendition of "On Broadway;"

Susan Anderson in the hall of Hill House stopping me to say that John Lennon had died;

Janeen Vanhooke and Herman Goins tearing up any dance floor;

Lisa Sykes singing "Stop! In The Name of Love" while doing all of Diana Ross' moves;

Lisa Sykes hopping across campus with ribbons on her crutches to match her preppy wardrobe;

Robert Lee, deadpan, on stage holding a daisy and reciting lewd German verse;

sweet, adorable Michelle Zimmer having a roomful of shiny, kick-ass Shotokan trophies;

a wet Dr. Miller trying to explain himself before the board of trustees;

nearly all of us posing grandly for photos in Duke Gardens on Senior Skip Day.

You remember things I don't.  I love being reminded.  And I thank those of you who have kindly elevated my phone call to the radio station on that snowy morning to folklore status.  I never knew that act would give me my bit of immortality, but I'll gratefully take it.  --Way better than to have been expelled.  Somehow I graduated never even having been phased.  I want to thank those who protected me.

We are each other's keepers.  As we come together, we bring along those who otherwise cannot be here:  Ellis Smith, Freshteh Golkho, Alex Daughety, Stephanie Locklear, Lisa Sykes Leland.  We keep them with us.

If it seems that to indulge in our memories every few years is to live in the past -- and I've been accused of it -- I suggest that "past, present, and future" as used to partition a human life means next to nothing in time.  One's past is indeed just a piece of one's very brief moment that might as well be seized as often as possible along the way.  By coming together, we continue to seize the day.  Our day.

And now I propose a toast to you, to us... To our time together.